Freewriting from thoughts in my head-
As a single teenage parent, I can relate to going without and because of my own poor 19 year old decisions, I can relate to being temporarily homeless, or without a permanent home. I can not relate to these situations with factors I could not control, because my circumstances were because of my own actions – give your parents enough shit and they change the locks… Tough Love worked.
However, as we read through the material I can see, from Mercy Me, and from later events in my life (what was I thinking!?) where things are sometimes outside of ones control… I joke in class about my stepson being 18 soon; but in trying to change the world inside my own home, I have sadly come to realize how much children are at the mercy of good parents in order to be successful and to get off on the right foot.
While my own young foolishness was temporary, I have worried a lot lately about the ideas and believes my stepson has in his head about his own future – he’s going to college you know, on a scholarship for baseball…. Except he does not play baseball; and he has applied to any colleges.
He has been told this and without a clear understanding of how things work – like, dude, you need to be on a baseball team for someone to know how you play… he is so sadly misguided but clinging on to the old shake-security he knows.
My necessary focus on myself, working on my MBA and career certifications have led me to put less and less energy into trying to steer him on to a realistic path – until I can help him walk this path along side him. It is challenging to know someone is so horribly mislead.
How is this related to poverty? Sometime people live in poverty, making bad decisions because it is all they have been taught. Sometimes this is because of things in their control and sometimes it is not. My stepson has taught me that somethings which seem in our control, sometimes are not — it is based on perception. I have struggled with this – as a very fortunate female, who made some foolish decisions, I was so privileged to have great parents who let me learn from my mistakes but did not create hurdles for me.
Poverty is a significant hurdle; it is unimaginable how some are forces to live. Poverty is not just about money, but you can be poor in knowledge to – right?
Stretching an idea, thanks for letting me vent and share.