This was a good book to learn to accept my own biases. Dr. Gower again strategically lead us through different authors so we gained the most impact. I liked how this book encouraged me to learn about myself and to then try to fix my own habits as I learned to be more accepting of others actions, behaviors and decisions. The book helped me understand that having some biases are not as bad as acting as if I do not have any.
I love learning about people and why they make the decisions they do, even if I do not agree with their decision I LOVE hearing their critical thinking process! If someone has put any consideration into an action or a decision, I want to learn about it because I want to learn about different ways people derive decisions. This is a bias for me because I assume everyone things about the pros and cons of their actions and decisions. I am disappointed when the answer to questions is so over simplified there is nothing to share. I become bias in this manner because I tend to get frustrated and make statements like – how do you not think about your actions/ decision/ behavior.
My logic works very well with my own children, who understand I expect to hear their reasons for their actions/ behavior, even when the behaviors are bad. Actually, this is even more than the case because I want to know how they arrived as a poor decision. My logic works very poorly on my stepchildren who have not been taught to think critically and told what to do each step of their life. I have a hard time forgiving others were not raised like I was; and from this book I see things in a different manner.
(I still think it is best to know why you are doing something, either when you do it or on self reflection – but I am learning to accept more spontaneity.